As a married wife or one who is currently in a courtship that is soon leading to marriage you will undoubtedly agree with me that courtship is a lovely and unforgettable moment especially for those in love. Aside from discussing and planning the present and future, it is also the period of a show of love, understanding, affection, care, and exchange of calls and text messages that reaffirms to each other that they are committed to each other.
So what happened after a few weeks, months, or years after the wedding? Have you wondered why most couples become bored of each other? Notice is those kinds of marriages, the both parties blame one another for the coldness or rift existing between them.
There are a good number of reasons that contribute to the disagreement in marriage and these sometimes have led to the dissolution of some of these marriages because communication has been trampled.
Every marriage needs to be deliberately nurtured by the couples. By nurturing, we mean to cherish, nourish and you nourish by feeding because what you don’t feed becomes malnourished.
As a wife or intended wife to be, one of the main dishes needed by you to nourish your husband and by extension the home is to serve him a heart and ears that Listens.
Just like you always want to be heard, so does your husband desire the same from you too.
Yes! We know that the devil is after every marriage nevertheless, we must consciously and constantly reject the adamic nature of blame-shifting one’s negligence and ignorance on the devil. The more you blameshift, it deprives you of growth and denies you of peace.
The basic needs and desires of a man are not just limited to food, sex and submissiveness from his wife.
Dear Wives, never neglect the need and desire of your husband because he is your priority and the first citizen in your home.
To maintain a healthy home that is free from drama then you must cultivate the skill and habit of listening to him.
Don’t forget your husband is as human as you and has feelings too. He has ideas, plans, challenges, etc that he wants to share with you only if you’re calm and patiently listen to him. His sharing with you bonds you both stronger, boost his confidence as he shares his vulnerability with you. And for your husband to be vulnerable to you as his wife shows the level of trust and security he finds in you.
Dear wife, you must be conscious and intentional to feed your marriage with the healthy dish needed to strengthen the bond between you and your spouse. When you neglect your spouse, you have just given an invitation to the devil to replace you with another who will be a listening ear and heart to your spouse.
