Myth: SINGLEHOOD OR STAYING WITHOUT A MAN IS A CURSE.
Fact: Singlehood is a period of preparation for marriage and family. In this period, you allow God to work in you, refine you and bring out the best in you. In this period you learn virtues and values. It’s not a period to accept idleness and get tricked by the devil. You don’t always have this time so make proper use of it.
Myth: ABSTINENCE IS NOT POSSIBLE; IT’S LIKE A FISH THAT CAN’T LIVE OUT OF WATER.
Fact: It is very possible!
Mary the mother of Jesus lived in that possibility.
You too can !! Romans 6:11-14
Myth: ABSTINENCE BEFORE MARRIAGE MAKES CONCEPTION VERY DIFFICULT OR ALMOST IMPOSSIBLE.
Fact: Inability to conceive immediately after marriage could result from a wide range of etiological factors including pathological, psychological and physiological.
Most times eating healthy, taking proper vitamins can help prepare the woman’s body for pregnancy.
The devil has always been the father of liars. Eve lived in abstinence until the eyes of them both were opened after eating the forbidden fruit and then Adam went into his wife and she conceived and bore a son. Genesis 4:1.
Myth: IF YOU DON’T FLIRT YOU CAN’T GET A GOOD MAN FOR MARRIAGE.
Fact: Finding a good man or woman for marriage is God’s making when you allow him to decide for you. Remember every good and perfect gift comes from God alone. James 1:17, Proverbs 19 :14.
Myth: ABSTINENCE WILL CAUSE EXTREMELY PAINFUL AND DIFFICULT SEX AFTER MARRIAGE
Fact: There is usually slight discomfort with every first time. Proper psychological preparation and an understanding partner will ease any pain associated with first time sex after marriage. It’s an honourable first time. Hebrews 11:4
Myth: ABSTINENCE BEFORE MARRIAGE WILL MAKE CHILDBIRTH EXTREMELY PAINFUL AND YOU’LL END UP HAVING TEARS.
Fact: pain during childbirth or labour pain is a factor of a hormone called prostaglandins which causes the uterine contractions the woman feels. This as well is biblical and has nothing to do with abstinence before marriage. Genesis 3:16, John 16:21.
Myth: SEX WILL HASTEN THE DEVELOPMENT OF THE BREASTS AND BUTTOCKS IN FEMALE ADOLESCENTS.
Fact: Development of the body during puberty has nothing to do with sex. It’s rather a product of heredity, hormones, diet etc.
Myth: SEX REDUCES OR STOPS MENSTRUAL PAIN.
Fact: Sex is no cure for menstrual pain also known as Dysmenorrhea. The pain is simply an effect of some hormones i.e prostaglandins that are released in the body shortly before and during menstruation. It causes uterine contractions which helps shed the uterine lining (bleeding). It can also be caused by other medical conditions like endometriosis, PID, fibroids in the uterus, cervical stenosis, etc.
Myth: PREMARITAL SEX IS NO BIG DEAL
FACT: Haven’t you heard that your body does not just belong to you but a place of abode for the Holy Spirit? When you have premarital sex which is against the the will of God, you don’t just harm yourself but also defile His place of dwelling and therefore you make Him homeless. Can you bear making the indispensable Holy Spirit homeless? Is it not a big deal to you? 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Myth: EVERYBODY IS DOING IT
Fact: Just that everybody does it doesn’t mean it’s right. You have been called to be separate and to stand out. 2 Corinthians 6:14-18
Myth: HAVING SEX WILL MAKE ME FEEL BETTER ABOUT MYSELF
Fact: Research shows that sexually-active teens are more likely to be depressed, have suicidal thoughts, and attempt suicide. One university study showed that 67% of people who had sex as a teen regretted it and wished they had waited.
Self-esteem is built beginning from infancy, psychologists say. The love, care and support children receive from their parents begins to mould their esteem early enough.
Myth: YOUR BODY IS YOURS, YOU’RE NOT ACCOUNTABLE TO ANYONE.
Fact: While you’re not accountable to anyone, don’t forget you’ll give account of all you’ve done with your body. 2 Corinthians 5:10, Romans 14:12.
Myth: PRE-MARITAL SEX IS A NORMAL THING
Fact: Pre-marital sex is stealing what belongs to you and it is a sin against God and your body.
Stolen waters is sweet and bread eaten in secret is pleasant but he knoweth not that the dead are there; And that her guests are in the depths of hell.
Proverbs 9:17-18 KJV
Myth: LACK OF SEXUAL EXPERIENCE BEFORE MARRIAGE MAKES MARRIAGE BORING.
Fact: Sex is created for married couples. ‘Test running’ will only be a breeding ground for infidelity and unfaithfulness in marriage.
Myth: VALUING VIRGINITY PUT GIRLS AND WOMEN AT RISK OF VIOLENCE, ABUSE, AND ASSAULT.
Fact: How about losing it and being exposed to risk of STDs and constant abuse? Virginity is the pride of every woman. Although being a virgin is never a yardstick for our relationship with God. He primarily came for those who have lost their way somewhere in life, he fixes them and walks with them as if they were new.
Myth: IF YOU WAIT TO HAVE SEX, YOU ARE A PRUDE OR YOU ARE GAY.
Fact: Waiting until marriage to have sex just means you’re smart enough to keep yourself unspotted in this polluted world. James 1:27
We have mentioned just a few of the many terrible lies the devil has sold and keeps selling to many young people unfortunately, but the good thing is that you can decide to trash all these lies and pick out all the good things God has spoken concerning you and your future. Rehearse them to your hearing, confess them and bind them about you.
Never let anyone speak otherwise into your ears.
You’re more than the devil’s lies.